From the Desk of Keith Hafner

Confidence: Paula’s Story

Paula had been walking home from school by herself since second grade. But when fourth grade started, she changed schools. This meant that she had to walk by the middle school playground.

Some middle school boys always hung out at the edge of the playground. They were loud and aggressive. Even though Paula wasn’t in any actual physical danger, she always felt intimidated.

When she explained this situation to her dad, he began working with her on her posture and her breathing. He also instructed Paula to look those boys right in the eye.

This eye contact was hard for Paula to learn. It took her outside her comfort zone. But Dad role-played with her, repeatedly.

Soon, Paula learned to use these empowering body language techniques on her walk home. They immediately changed the way she felt. Instead of feeling intimidated, she felt confident and safe.